@coffeeandthoughtswithSumi

“Who am I?” It sounds like a very basic question, doesn’t it? And yet, it’s one of the most powerful ones. We often feel we are sorted in life. Somewhere deep down, however, there’s always a small lingering feeling of the unknown. Every day we wake up and learn something new about ourselves. But in the middle of our busy, mechanical routines, we rarely stop to think about it. We just keep going, flowing with the flow. We grow every day—physically and emotionally. Sometimes the physical growth is quite visible… not always vertical, but horizontal (jokes apart). Growth, in whatever form it comes, is certain. Things that once brought us so much happiness don’t always hold the same value anymore. The stamina we once had for physical activities isn’t the same now. On the other hand, emotions that were once difficult to control are now handled quietly and calmly. Where doing one task felt exhausting earlier, today we manage many things at once—often without even realising our own strength. A...

“Hey Ramya, shall we go for lunch?” Dhanya asked one afternoon. Ramya hesitated. “Hmm… okay… no, I brought lunch… maybe let’s ditch it and go out… oh, why is it so difficult to find the right answer?” That small exchange captured something bigger—Ramya’s lifelong struggle with choices. Childhood: Pampered but Dependent Ramya grew up as the youngest child, adored and protected by her family. Decisions were always made for her. She was loved deeply, but in that love, she never learned how to choose for herself. When it came to her children, her household, or her office work, she was confident and decisive. But when it came to herself—what she wanted to eat, wear, or even how to style her hair—she was lost. Friendships Without Roots At school, Ramya was friendly and outgoing. She spoke to everyone, helped everyone, and was liked by all. “Ramya, can you help me with this assignment?” classmates would ask. She always said yes. But when the fun began, she often found herself stan...